The irony of compromise.

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It is the rule of life that we compromise to lead a somewhat happy/content one. At least, that is what we tell ourselves when we make the compromise. We give up on places, things, people we like. All, in the pursuit of happiness. But the real question is, what about the sadness that engulfs you when you give up stuff? Does the guilt leave your side ever?

Your conscience does warn you. So there’s no way we can say it didn’t do its best. We overlook it’s red signal simply because our desire & greed is bigger & more powerful. We claw our way through the screaming words, only to be screamed at by our inner self later.

Where do we draw the line? Where does this end? It doesn’t. There’ll always be something you give up. There’ll always be something you make someone give up for you. When do you realise you’re being too selfish? You know that tinge of resentment that rears its head when you are the one making the compromise? Would you feel it, even when you make someone compromise on something for your sake? Why shouldn’t the one-size-fits-all rule apply here? So many questions on this subject. But we aren’t ready or rather not comfortable answering most of them. Because the truth will destroy many a things. It will, most importantly, destroy you.

Coming to terms with something like this is difficult. We can however, learn how to cope with it because it’s something we cannot escape. How? List out your priorities in an order of importance. Divide them into major & minor. The latter are the ones you need to agree on being ready to adjust/compromise with. The major ones are what describe you. They are what call out to your soul. They are certainly not what you will be okay with, if you give up on them. These will haunt you, for eternity. What is the other important thing you need to do? Remember that others too, have a majors list like you. And that’s where you also need to be as understanding when you want them to make a compromise.

No one but you, will live & breathe the changes during & after. If you do end up having a companion in the same boat, it’s not as if the journey won’t be difficult, but as they say, misery loves a companion ☺

Nevertheless, the joys that the minor list of compromises may have brought/will bring to you, are to be celebrated too. Coz they too are a victory of you losing something to gain something else.

Compromises can break you, as well as bring you joy. That in itself, is an irony.

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The waft

“Tell me more about you” he said.

“Like what?” she asked, adjusting the sheet around her body.

“Like…are you the kind of woman who….” his voice trails off as he sees her reaching for a cigarette, kept on the night stand next to her bed.

“The kind of woman who…what?”

“The kind who smokes after sex?” he finishes.

“I’m the kind who smokes whenever. And the kind who’ll be whatever you want me to be, as long as you’re not a nutcase!” she smiles while taking a drag.

His eyes rest on her face for a minute, taking into account every little detail of that irresistible face and deadly smile.

“In that case how about you give me half of that death wish you’re puffing away?” he asks.

She never touched a cigarette after that day.

Europe – Part 1: Rome, Italy

I had the amazing opportunity of touring 4 Countries in Europe, a little over 2 months ago. The vacation started with Rome and ended with Berlin, with Switzerland, Milan, Stockholm & Potsdam in the midst of it all! I’d like to share, in pictures, the beauty of these places and a little bit of facts and history I learned during my trip

1st stop – 4 days in Roma! (Rome, Italy)

The welcome board at the airport 🙂

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Our first stop on the rainy day was but obviously at The Vatican. The museum displays works from the immense collection built up by the Popes throughout the centuries including some of the most renowned classical sculptures and most important masterpieces of Renaissance art in the world.

The Sistine Chapel with its ceiling decorated by Michelangelo and the Stanze della Segnatura decorated by Raphael are on the visitor route. We weren’t allowed to take photographs or shoot videos in those areas. 

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The beautiful & timeless paintings took my breath away!

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And who would believe what efforts it took to create these fantastic & artistic ceilings!

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A look inside the St. Peter’s basilica inside The Vatican:

Day 2: I walked around the Piazza Navona square

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I’ve always been an awkward poser…

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One of the many art forms you get to see on the streets of Rome

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No idea how this man was sitting ON air! I actually went close to have a look and it did seem like he was sitting on thin air..

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Happened to walk in to the Campo-dio-fiori area as I had read in one of the travel blogs. Et Voila! The place is a treasure hunt for an avid traveller..there was a fruit market, a flower market, souvenir stalls etc.

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Next stop was at the St. Angelo Castle (Castel Sant’Angelo) which means Castle of the Holy Angel. It is a towering cylindrical building in which was initially commissioned by the Roman Emperor Hadrian as a mausoleum for himself and his family. The building was later used by the popes as a fortress and castle, and is now a museum. The Castle was once the tallest building in Rome.

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The locks on the bridge of the castle as a sign of love and unity forever (P.s. the red one is mine):

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Music at the Castle…and a view of the bridges surrounding it:

Day 3: The Colloseum & other important places!

The Colosseum also known as the Flavian Amphitheatre, is an elliptical amphitheatre in the centre of the city of Rome. Built of concrete and stone, it is the largest amphitheatre ever built and is considered one of the greatest works of architecture and engineering. The Colosseum could hold between 50,000 & 80,000 spectators & was used for gladiatorial contests & public spectacles such as mock sea battles, animal hunts, executions, re-enactments of famous battles, & dramas based on Classical mythology. It was devastated by the Great Fire of Rome in AD 64.

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Next we visited The Altare della Patria (Altar of the Fatherland) also known as the Monumento Nazionale a Vittorio Emanuele II(National Monument to Victor Emmanuel II) which is a monument built in honour of Victor Emmanuel, the first king of a unified Italy.

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The Vittoriano features stairways, Corinthian columns, fountains, an equestrian sculpture of Victor Emmanuel and two statues of the goddess Victoria riding on quadrigas.

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One can see almost the entire city of Rome from the roof of the Monument:

The second last stop in Rome before we headed off to the Airport to catch our flight to Zurich, was the ‘Spanish Steps’. The Spanish Steps are a set of steps climbing a steep slope between the Piazza di Spagna (the small pond with a fountain) the at the base and Piazza Trinità dei Monti, dominated by the Trinità dei Monti church at the top.

Piazza di Spagna:

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The Spanish Steps:

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We headed off to the airport, and to kill time, we stopped at the Fumicino Beach near by, as a last stop before saying good bye to Rome 🙂

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Whoever said “Rome was not built in a day”, was justified in saying so. One of the most architecturally beautiful places I have ever been to. So long Roma!